Great Lakes Power Exchange (GLPE)

Great Lakes Power Exchange

Why have we been so busy lately?  Part of it is family and life and business… the priorities that must co-exist and harmonize with Power Exchange and service to the community.  Those things have required a lot of attention recently.  And those who cannot find balance, who cannot flex and adapt, who cannot make priorities a priority – they are sure to fail eventually.  <Ooops.  Insert personal philosophy statement and get distracted from intended update… right about here.>

Anyhow, super busy and mostly none of your business.  However, some interesting developments in the GLPE contest are relevant and are your business:

  1.  They shifted the contest forward two month, to move the event to a new venue and coordinate it with another event.  That means that our title year would be a total of 10 months.
  2. The shift also shortened the timeframe for accepting (finding/supporting/arm-twisting) applicants for the 2017 title year.  Which meant that as the time of the contest approached they were missing an important component: contestants.

Obviously, 1+2=12.  We had a short title year, and they preferred not to let the title sit empty, so they asked us to continue holding the title for 2017.  We are very excited and honored to be asked to continue.  It feels nice to know we did enough with the 10 months we were given that they felt comfortable entrusting us with another year of service to the region.

The GLPE contest is now in August.  Because the Producers had already done all the work to arrange a venue and gather judges, they asked us to perform our Presentation (10 minute), Fantasy (6 minute) and Interview (20 minute) for a mock-judging.  That would give us the opportunity to have some feedback, and give others that might consider a title run the opportunity to see a contest.

The result?  We had a little over one month to prepare for the mock-judging.  Had first-time contestants applied, we would simply have stepped aside.  It was odd – we had to be 100% prepared, but didn’t know, for certain, that we would be called on to carry the title until just a few days before the event, when the application deadline passed.

So we did our mock-competition this last weekend (August 27).  We have already received a lot of feedback, from the judges, the audience, and the Producers.  The majority of the feedback is that there is very little to improve – and that we will be great representatives at the International Power Exchange competition, at Beyond Leather, in 2017.

Yup.  We are going back.

August 2016 Update

We’ve been crushingly busy the last few months.  I feel like I’ve barely been at my keyboard since International.  Obviously that isn’t entirely true, and this blog needs some updates:


We didn’t bring home the title.  I’m not really able to say we “lost” as we made new friends, and got invitations to teach at some distant events, and that was part of our goal for attempting a title run in the first place.  We were obviously disappointed, since we felt like we had a lot to offer the title, but the title is in good hands with another couple.


It is coming up on two years since we began stewardship of the local kinkster group.  While we have managed to have a gathering every month (and often more than one), I’d like to do more connecting, supporting, and educating for the local community.  I’ve not yet figured out how I want to do that, or what it will look like.  Perhaps simply starting with refreshing some connections to other locals?  That is a project for Fall, however.  Our current crush of activity doesn’t leave a lot of space for expanding our activity.


We’ve presented 5 times since April, not including the presenting we did at Beyond Leather.  On the immediate horizon is Master/slave Conference (MsC) and Great Lakes Leadership Alliance (GLLA).  That will be our first time attending both events, and we get to go as presenters.

At MsC, we get to have a unique experience!  We will be on a panel with Raven Kaldera, Joshua Tenpenny, Sir Stephen, and slave Catherine.  We will be discussing the enactment of Power Exchange outside of a Leather framework.  In essence, “How can you call yourself Master/slave but not Leather?”

Great Lakes Power Exchange

Our title year has come to a close.  But wait… there’s more.

Garden Variety Power Exchange

Power Exchange happens every day, in all the things we do.  It is so easy to get distracted, or complacent regarding all the ways that PE is part of our 24/7 existence.

It isn’t about her prancing around in slave bells and grovelling at my feet all day.  It is super hard to get shit done that way.

We were out gardening yesterday.  I know, I know!  When you picture the interactions of regional Power Exchange title holders, you probably don’t imagine two sweaty folks looking at each other over top of a rose bush gone to hell, saying “Do you have the pruners?  I was pretty sure you had them last.”  She didn’t have in a ballgag or buttplug.  I wasn’t carrying a bullwhip.

I stopped and noticed a particular PE moment, since I’m trying to cultivate a fresh awareness of all the subtle PE things we now do naturally.  We feel like we are just doing our lives, and others see us as embodying Power Exchange…so we need to pay more attention to our process, so we can share it clearly and openly.

katie is the gardening expert.  I have to consult with her about what to do and how to do things.  I end up asking her “Is this how you would like that trimmed?” or “Would you like me to tie up those Gladiolus?”  To an outsider I am her assistant.  She is in charge of the garden, and I follow.

But from inside our relationship, there is a subtle difference.  I am in charge, and we both know it.  I could ask her to rip out all the plants and plant a thousand Lantana (because I like it) and she would do so.  I could go inside and watch Netflix, and she would continue to serve me by making the garden beautiful.

There was a moment when I was asking katie about what job needed done next, or some other fiddly detail, and she said to me “Tell me what you are trying to accomplish, and I’ll help make that happen.”  That, right there, is the essence of our Power Exchange.  Even when she has superior expertise, it is applied in service.